Most people end up screwing up their friends with benefits situations. It’s only a matter of time before these types of relationships dissipate. There are some people that are able to successfully maintain their FWB relationship and those that are follow the rules. Some people don’t strictly stick to the rules and that’s the probably why they end up destroying their friends with benefits relationship. I’ve taken the guessing game out of everything to help all of you.
Why should you listen to me? Well, I’ve got friends with benefits in both Southern California and South Florida. As you will recall me mentioning that I spend time all of this right here. Oh, and I have more than one in both locations. I’m able to maintain these types of relationships for a few reasons. It has to do with where I meet the girls. I use great adult dating sites to meet the girls and I always follow of the game. Simple as that really. Read the rules to learn more…
Friends With Benefits Rules You Must Always Follow
The glue to this type of relationship is sex. If you’re not hooking up with the girl then why are you even in the relationship? Things get tricky when you both go from casual sex to being committed to each other. These rules should help you refrain from getting too close with your local fuck buddy. Just follow them and don’t break the rules.
Have Sex When You Hang
If you hang out with your FWB, then you need to have sex with them. There’s no reason why you should hang out with each other if sex isn’t part of the equation. It’s legit the rule that’s unbreakable and the only reason why you two are even friends. If you start developing a non-sexual relationship with someone then it’s going to lead to hanging out with them more, taking the focus off of sex.
Here’s how I do it, there are no sleepovers period. I don’t care if you are drunk as fuck, take an Uber or Lyft home. Either that or put the girl your having sex with in a car and send her on her way. Staying at each other’s place is a surefire way to increase the level of comfort between you two. I’ll tell you that’s not what you want! Letting someone stay over your place is a recipe for desire. Here are a few reasons why it’s bad:
- It makes you look very unimportant or not busy at all. Not a good look.
- It makes them think that you’re into them enough to let them disrupt your schedule.
- You will look as though your more interested in a more serious relationship.
- The sex partner will thing you’re more into them then you really are.
You need to set the right expectations and by that I mean that you’re expecting sex and nothing more or less.
Avoid Couples Type Activity
Look, you should not be meeting up with each other for anything other than having sex (or having Skype sex if meeting virtually). Don’t even think about spending time together doing that lovey dovey type stuff. All that type of stuff is for people that are in longterm relationships. That being said, the following activities are totally out of the question between you and your friend with benefits.
- Non-sexual phone conversations
- Going out to dinner
- Watching a movie in a theater
- Texting to see how they’re doing
- Friendly IM chats
- Social media tagging
- Going to events together
Basically, you need to avoid doing everything that makes it look like you two are an item of any kind. People might get the wrong impression and think that you two are closer than you really are.
No Holidays Together
You best not be spending any time holidays together or you’re going to be in trouble. It’s perhaps the worst idea ever. Have you ever seen any of those Christmas and Thanksgiving movies that show people getting emotionally attached to one another. They get attached, they start kissing and they live happily ever after. I have two words for you that you need to hear: FUCK THAT!
Shut your phone off a week within a holiday if you need to do so. Don’t be afraid to do that really.
Limit Once Per Week
Assuming that you have lots of time on your hands during the week, you want to fill that time doing something other than hanging with your FWB. It’s only acceptable to spend one day/night with them, no more. Too much time together is a recipe for disaster. It makes thing a big more complex because too much time together can lead to stronger feelings. Something you really want to avoid!
There are plenty of other things that you should consider when hooking up with friends but this is just the tip of the iceberg. I’m sure you’ll have plenty of luck getting laid if you spend time reading and following the rules.